Hey ya’ll,

So a little over a month ago I debating whether I should cut my hair or just relax it. After growing it out from a high top I’d been rocking,. I admittedly slacked on consistent hair care and it was uneven and plain boring. I suppose the sheer fact that I was prepared to literally just get rid of it all made the prospect of chemically treating it more justifiable. Prior to that, I happily had my hair cut weekly for about a year and a half, and maintain a fade which was oh-so very liberating! I was over tight ass weave, complete with the migraines, missing baby hair’s and an empty wallet. I loved how low maintenance it was, but, all good things must come to an end. I eventually just grew it out in braids and wore wigs.


I had been natural for 10 years, more or less before team natural was popping, simply because I didn’t like how relaxed hair felt.  Now that I think about it, It was probably due to the negative childhood memories of my mother relaxing my hair as a child. I loathed the whole process, the Vaseline around my hairline  (have always hated the feeling of thick mineral oil on my skin), the intense feeling of your entire head being on fire and the matching chemical burns to prove it! Yeah, it was a mess. As soon as I was able to do my own hair it was a wrap.

I never was really part of the NaturalHairNazi, it was a simple case of doing what I felt was most comfortable and best for me. I never used any kind of heat either, again, because I just didn’t like how it felt. I loved and was super proud of my hair in it’s natural state, it’s strength, versatility, and volume. What I struggled with however, was that high maintenance part. Since my hair is naturally 4C, those kinks and coils were nothing to play with. The time consuming untangling if I did as much as touch it, falling asleep without a headscarf and waking up to a fizz ball mess, I’d dread wash days because it took too long, and I’d skip the 3 part moisturising system and opt of a little oil spray here and there. It’s work, work that I just wasn’t prepared to dedicate so much time to anymore. It was daunting, and it made me avoid wanting to do it altogether. On top of everything else, I work out frequently, so having to rinse my hair so often was a nightmare. When it was all said and done, I’d rarely wear my natural hair out because of the fear of rain and having product run down my face, the harsh drying cold London weather and getting more tangles. I felt like, is the point of protective styles to keep it protected for ever?  After all the time, effort and money we put into maintaining it, it just didn’t make sense to me anymore. Neither my real hair nor myself was benefiting from any of it, so what exactly was I trying to achieve?


Eventually I thought, it’s not by force. I was at a friends house for the weekend and I just randomly told her, you know what, relax my hair girl. I want to be able to enjoy properly caring for my hair again, wearing it out whenever I want to, and being able to achieve some new hair styles I’ve been limited in doing. (like the one in the pic!) I plan to have it professionally retouched every 3 months, to minimise chemical exposure.

There’s a pressure of being ‘natural’ these days, but if anyone knows me, they know I don’t conform easily. I do what I think is right for me, as long as need be. Relaxed hair doesn’t mean I love my hair any less (or more!). It just means at this point in time in life, it’s more manageable. The natural movement is a lifestyle, and beyond hair. It’s the food you eat, the products you use, the way you take care of your body as a whole and how you choose to represent yourself. Few people have everything in line, and to me, the pressure on having natural hair is a little too over the top for what it is.

Don’t let anyone bully you into doing something your not ready or comfortable with. Natural or not, it doesn’t matter if you don’t enjoy it. I guess the question I’d ask someone considering a hair change is, what do you have to prove and what do you have to lose?

Are you natural or relaxed? What made you choose?

xoxo

 

Hey guys,

So one of the current trends I am absolutely in love with is the returns of braids and the swinging beads. That ‘African Nubian Empress, I am a Queen, B*@ch Don’t pull on my beads” vibe, and I am totally here for ittttt! I really don’t think they can ever go completely out of style, it’s like the ultimate black girl’s childhood hair-do. Even before the Alicia Keys ‘Fallin’ video, braids n beads were poppin, but now there’s the added modern twist to this old skool look to make it look grown and sexy. What makes this hairstyle so appealing right now is that they are low manipulation, perfect for the summer heat, unlike single plaits, doesn’t take hours to achieve, and gives you the chance to be creative, youthful and colourful. The beads can easily be purchased online or at your local beauty store. I’ll definitely be rocking these in a month or so, all the way down to my ass, baby hair layed, with a million beads at the bottom rattling away singing to the hair gawwwds.

What’s your summer hair do?

xoxo

Braid1braid4

 

 

Hey everyone,

So this post is a little (fine, more than a little) overdue, its something I’ve wanted to write about for a while but was a little unsure how I wanted to write it. Im planning to do regular posts on fitness therefore I thought it would be right to start off with a little history with fitness and working out.

My relationship with the gym kind of resembles that of a smokers first attempt with a nicotine patch. They start their journey with high hopes and enthusiasm only to crash and burn, and then kind of yo-yo for a few years until they finally get it together. It was unhealthy, inconsistent, and I lacked a lot of important knowledge that would have made things a whole lot easier.

Growing up I’ve always been on the chubby side. I used to hate working out and avoided P.E at all costs. My elder brothers would tease me and created an oh – so affectionate song to sing about my weight and then proceed to cry with laughter every time. Even my parents made little jabs here and there, it made me self conscious kid and I eventually shifted a little weight by skipping meals at school until I was considered ‘ideal’.

My first encounter with the gym was at 18 in 2010, right after having my son. Fitness First was cleverly situated right outside university and I very quickly signed up within the first week. I was absolutely obsessed with getting rid of the baby bulge and look like a actual 18 year old. I had absolutely no idea about exercise and was a little too stubborn and impatient to properly research or ask for information. In my mind, gym was really just a synonym for ‘treadmill’ sooo,  I proceeded to sprint 1 – 2 hour everyday, 7 days a week, Yep, EVERYDAY. Never glanced at a dumbbell or even once. I really don’t know what I was thinking, but I was not gonna stop until I got what I wanted (stubborn Sarah came out to play) I was just so focused. What makes it worse was that my eating habits were absolutely disgraceful. Breakfast was a chocolate bar but more often just a steady supply of oxygen. My first solid food would come at about 4/5pm and that would be crisps and other rubbish. And theeen, right after my intense cardio session, I’d experience the classic hunger pain and then stroll my little butt over to McDonalds (it was on my way home) and eat whatever I wanted, reasoning with myself that I was making up the calories that missed during the day. I mean seriously?!  What a joke I was.*cries fake real tears*

I kept it up for the first 6 months of university and upon my return home, was greeted by the look of shock and horror on my mothers and sisters face. I had lost so much weight I was basically skin and bones. As a naturally big girl, the results were striking. However, despite being told I had become way too slim, I saw something completely different. I still had a whole lot of stomach fat shift and it was the only thing I was concerned with. Eventually though, I became discouraged, I had lost all my natural curves and along with it, motivation. I finally eased off and then left the gym but for some reason kept my membership for the duration of my degree.

Fast forward 2013 I joined Pure Gym right by my house, and for the first year and a half I probably visited 4/5 times.. I know, I know, I know… Mid 2014 I got my issh together a little and devised a semi assed workout plan of weight lifting only. Although there were several breaks in between, I kept up the routine, and finally saw some gains I actually quite liked. The routine involved lots of squats, stomach crunches, several leg exercises and a few classes.

Now to the present date, I’m finally in a position where I am confident with the direction I’m heading in, I’ve gained a substantial amount of knowledge and adjusted my routine regularly and accordingly. Ive switched up my diet and frequently  read up on ways to improve my training. My biggest achievement is the consistency of training x4 days weekly and pushing myself even when I’d rather be having an apple pie in front of the TV. No matter how lazy I feel, I force myself out to the gym and kill the routine every time. Working out goes far beyond your body guys, the mental strength is the biggest reward for me. I literally becoming a new person and proving to myself that everything and anything that I put my mind to is possible.

I’m currently creating a new routine which I’m planning on posting in a few weeks or so. It’ll be a sort of  3 months boot camp series that I’ll be updating and documenting with monthly progress results. I’ll be including the full details of the routines as well as weekly diet. Ive put a lot of planning and conducted a whole a lot of research into this one and I’m super excited about starting! Check with me soon to see how it all unfolds x

 

 

Hey Beautiful Peopleeeee,

So, I was thinking recently, how do I elevate my self to the next level? Then almost immediately the thoughts of what I could be doing was replaced with thoughts of what I ‘should’ be doing and why I couldn’t possibly do the first part. Uncertainty and doubts creep in, and it’s a common thought process for many of us.

One of the major enemies of growth is most definitely caring too much about the opinions of others. Imagine all the things we would have achieved if we didn’t have to worry about our image. Surely we’d live happier lives. Its sad that we often think about what things would look like to others, even before realising what we actually want in the first place. Ive done this myself several times, and it’s extremely detrimental to happiness and success.

It’s pretty evident to me that the people who live the most fulfilling  lives are often the ones that are fearless & unapologetic to people’s thoughts & opinions. The ones that have figured out how to let bullshit just glide off their backs like baby oil, and proceed with whatever they were gonna do anyway. I mean just look at the celebrities, they’re obviously forced to hone the skill daily. Certain people (*cough*  Bow wow) take L’s everyday (and counting) and still has the bulls to carry on where he left off. Unbothered.

I certainly wish I knew that formula, or get my hands on what ever he’s on. But for those of us who will never know, I thought compiling a little list would be beneficial in helping us take steps towards the right direction.

1. Build your confidence and self esteem. Probably the most single important thing. Self love and self esteem is absolutely paramount in the harsh world we live in. Once you are certain of who you are, what you stand for and what you want, no one can tell you nada.

2. Do things out of your comfort zone. Putting yourself out there in a very critical world  is terrifying but its fastest the only way to develop a thick skin. People are harsh, ignorant and just plain stupid. Its a cruel world. Start small by doing something like starting conversation with strangers, then graduate to vlogging in public or posting a video on a controversial subject. Sooner or later, you would have developed or gotten used to unsolicited comments and maybe even be able to just laugh about it.

3. Remember opinions are not fact.  Their thoughts, their business not yours. Stick to your truth and keep it moving.

4. Put your energy and attention into your own journey & goals. When your mind is focused on your vision, everything else becomes irrelevant. Protect your dream, and be quick to cut off poisonous people, thoughts or other influences. Always stay gracious best revenge is your paperrr.

5. Do as you please without hurting anyone. If you can’t please yourself, who will? If your not getting in anyone’s way, their issue is really with themselves. Proceed.

6.  Gratitude is the winning attitude. Reminding yourself of how blessed you are makes other issues  so insignificant.

7.  Turn fire into fuel. Figure out how to transfer negative emotions into energy that’ll drive you towards your goals.

8.  Surround yourself with a great team. Develop a strong network of people to remind you how amazing you for the days when amnesia temporarily strikes you.

9. Give & help others once in a while. Enriching the lives of others will always make you feel great.

10.  Finally, If in doubt, ask yourself whichever applies :-

– do I actually value their opinion?

– what’s the worst that can happen?

– will it matter in 2 years?

Will you die???

If the answer is no/none, MOVE ON. I always say, if it doesn’t make me happy, make me better or make me money, then  umm, it ain’t for me, next.

and that’s it! Hopefully this has reached someone who needed it, I’ll definitely have to read back from time to time to remind myself how to be a baddass.

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xoxo

So a few weeks ago I celebrated my birthday (20th April 🎉🎊🎈🥂) over the weekend with family & friends. Although I feel old as hell, I’m so blessed! It’s hard to not be grateful for everything when you realise that many have not been fortunate enough to reach your age. Life is the ultimate  gift – nothing else needed! My  Saturday night was spent dancing the night away, sipping a little too much wine & crying of laughter. In true Cerra fashion, I completely forgot to take a picture of my birthday outfit before the mad dash out the front door! I did however, capture my make up look, created by the lovely @neonvelvet (check her out on instagram!). We went for a gold smoked eye and a red lip. 

Today’s T shirt which I absolutely love is from happytorso and very fitting!  Happy Torso offer exclusive hand made pieces. Items are made in-house and a limited amount are made at a time. This is why it’s recommended you purchase  as soon as they become available – they may not be made again. 

I’m wearing ‘the 4 G’s’, God, Goals, Growing & Glowing. my EXACT mindset as I step into this new chapter in my life. As a Christian, I Plan to really strengthen my relationship with God, be selfish and focus on my goals, grow in all areas of my life all while glowing & slayyying! You can’t go wrong with this formula & I can’t wait to see where God takes me next year. Whereever it is, your girl is ready * 2 snaps* 

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